How many men have you come across who probably dated you at one time and then suddenly vanished just to be found dating other women? The possible answer is 'many'. It is a hurtful process for any woman to realize that she was taken for a ride and then left for another better or worse ride. Is there a way to make him commit to you?
Women, as emotional as they are, would want to stick to the idea that something is still left in the relationship. The good times you two had make you want to believe that there still exists a special bond between the two of you.
If given a chance, you will probably still want to be with him. You just want to make sure that this time it is a longer and a deeper relationship. Even though you might be ready to go to any extent to be with him, there are a few things you should never forget.
Differentiate Between Relationships Commitment and Attraction
There is a lot of difference between just being attracted to a person and wanting to commit to him. You have to ask yourself if your man is ready to be involved emotionally. Evaluate your relationship with him. Maybe you are reading too much into his actions; may be you are overestimating your own feelings.
Pay attention to his actions. Is he giving out signals of disinterest and boredom? Think about it rationally… why is he dating another woman if he is truly committed to you? Dating another woman is a crystal clear indication that, at the present moment, he is not committed to you completely. You can try giving him some time but make sure that you are not wasting your own time in the process.
There are some men in this world who run away at the first sign of the word 'commitment'. For them, their 'freedom' is the only thing they want. Trying to make such men commit to you is a foolish effort on your part. Make sure that the guy you are trying to woo doesn't belong to this category.
Men are most clearly aware that they can't keep a woman with them for long unless they commit. In spite of this, they refuse to give their word. In fact, some men will purposely give up to their woman by letting her believe that something will come of the relationship (even though they have no intentions of doing so). This should prompt any self-respecting woman to back out or to take stern measures.
Women in such a situation should never get into self-loathing and pity. Rather they should start loving themselves even more by discovering their qualities and virtues. Ask yourself who you are, what your needs are and how far you are willing to go in a relationship.
Don’t think of how to get him to commit but instead let your man be busy in his affairs. This is a golden time for you to indulge in yourself and loving yourself to the hilt.
Showing posts with label why he doesn’t call. Show all posts
Showing posts with label why he doesn’t call. Show all posts
Saturday, September 11, 2010
Friday, August 6, 2010
Make Your Guy Long to Call You
There seems to be an apathy between men and phones that puzzle many of us. How can you make your guy long to call you? This is something that is likely to bother you a lot, especially considering that we usually enjoy getting in touch with the men in our lives.
Many men seem to be on the complete opposite of the situation. They do not appear to enjoy using the phone at all. However, do not pull yourself apart in case you find yourself with such a guy. There are some simple measures that will help you to spark his interest and he will long to call you.
Stop calling for a few days
You need to check your own actions to help you determine the real cause behind his failure of calling. Perhaps he does not see any reason why he should do so since you are already doing it anyway. When your guy is content in the knowledge that you will contact him, he will just sit back and wait for your call. Hence it is important for you to determine whether you are the one making your guy not long to call you. If you have been calling him often, do this test.
Stop calling for a few days. When you stop calling a guy, he will long to call you instead in order to find out what's happening.
Stop your accusations
Unless you are interested in driving that guy away, you should not get used to pointing an accusing finger at him whenever he calls. If you appear too demanding and dramatic, your guy will simply avoid you. As much as you would like to lash out at him for neglecting you, don't do it when he finally calls. Otherwise he will let you make the calls, which he may direct to his voicemail.
When he stops calling
There are instances when the guy often called regularly only to seem to lose interest. When you get the opportunity to spend time together, study how he reacts. In case he is interested, his lack of calling may be his way of gauging your reactions. Interestingly, your apparent lack of notice of the situation will just make him long to call you.
If you would like to make your guy long to call you, show your independence and give him his own space too.
Many men seem to be on the complete opposite of the situation. They do not appear to enjoy using the phone at all. However, do not pull yourself apart in case you find yourself with such a guy. There are some simple measures that will help you to spark his interest and he will long to call you.
Stop calling for a few days
You need to check your own actions to help you determine the real cause behind his failure of calling. Perhaps he does not see any reason why he should do so since you are already doing it anyway. When your guy is content in the knowledge that you will contact him, he will just sit back and wait for your call. Hence it is important for you to determine whether you are the one making your guy not long to call you. If you have been calling him often, do this test.
Stop calling for a few days. When you stop calling a guy, he will long to call you instead in order to find out what's happening.
Stop your accusations
Unless you are interested in driving that guy away, you should not get used to pointing an accusing finger at him whenever he calls. If you appear too demanding and dramatic, your guy will simply avoid you. As much as you would like to lash out at him for neglecting you, don't do it when he finally calls. Otherwise he will let you make the calls, which he may direct to his voicemail.
When he stops calling
There are instances when the guy often called regularly only to seem to lose interest. When you get the opportunity to spend time together, study how he reacts. In case he is interested, his lack of calling may be his way of gauging your reactions. Interestingly, your apparent lack of notice of the situation will just make him long to call you.
If you would like to make your guy long to call you, show your independence and give him his own space too.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Four Things You Can Do When He Doesn’t Call
Every relationship in this world requires a lot of understanding. At the initial stages of a relationship, both the girl and boy are on the phone; it would seem day and night. However, as time passes, the boy starts calling less and less. This gives the girl a feeling that she is not wanted and her boyfriend doesn’t care for her anymore. When you are in madly in love with someone, it really becomes very frustrating when your boyfriend doesn’t call or return calls. A negative response from your partner can lead to feelings of rejection and disappointment. If he doesn’t call, doing these few things will get him to call you.
Be Calm – A woman has the habit of panicking when her boyfriend doesn’t call. She may make assumptions that he is no longer interested in her and has got himself a new girlfriend. There is no need for sulking. There can be dozens of reasons he doesn’t call; some of which the most common is his being busy with his work. So stay calm and stop thinking negatively.
Don’t Bombard Him with Phone Calls and Voice Messages – It’s a very common observation that men don’t call their girlfriends just to see their reaction. Many women in such a situation will lose their cool and start calling their boyfriends desperately, leaving voice messages for him to call back as soon as possible. This makes a man feel that his girlfriend is frantic and needy for his love and affection. She would never let him enjoy his own space. This will give a negative impression of you and he would try to come out of such a relationship.
Don’t Open Completely – If your boyfriend comes to know that you’ll never leave him, come what may, then he will try to take advantage and feel it’s fine to not call back. He may even try to ignore you and your calls. It is advised not to show your feelings completely; if a man realizes that you are there, no matter how much time passes, he might not call you.
Enjoy The Time – The best thing to do when your boyfriend doesn’t call is to stop worrying and waiting. Rather, enjoy the time. Go out with friends and don’t call him. This will make him wonder as to what happened. He will start becoming inquisitive. When he calls, don’t answers him right away… rather make him wait. Make him leave messages and when you finally talk, just tell him that you have been busy.
If your boyfriend doesn’t call, these things will make him realize that you haven’t been in touch and he will definitely call back.
Be Calm – A woman has the habit of panicking when her boyfriend doesn’t call. She may make assumptions that he is no longer interested in her and has got himself a new girlfriend. There is no need for sulking. There can be dozens of reasons he doesn’t call; some of which the most common is his being busy with his work. So stay calm and stop thinking negatively.
Don’t Bombard Him with Phone Calls and Voice Messages – It’s a very common observation that men don’t call their girlfriends just to see their reaction. Many women in such a situation will lose their cool and start calling their boyfriends desperately, leaving voice messages for him to call back as soon as possible. This makes a man feel that his girlfriend is frantic and needy for his love and affection. She would never let him enjoy his own space. This will give a negative impression of you and he would try to come out of such a relationship.
Don’t Open Completely – If your boyfriend comes to know that you’ll never leave him, come what may, then he will try to take advantage and feel it’s fine to not call back. He may even try to ignore you and your calls. It is advised not to show your feelings completely; if a man realizes that you are there, no matter how much time passes, he might not call you.
Enjoy The Time – The best thing to do when your boyfriend doesn’t call is to stop worrying and waiting. Rather, enjoy the time. Go out with friends and don’t call him. This will make him wonder as to what happened. He will start becoming inquisitive. When he calls, don’t answers him right away… rather make him wait. Make him leave messages and when you finally talk, just tell him that you have been busy.
If your boyfriend doesn’t call, these things will make him realize that you haven’t been in touch and he will definitely call back.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Important Advice If You Are Waiting For Him to Call
Let's go straight to the point: if you are sitting around in wait for your guy to call, you are damaging your relationship. As women, we are very likely to do this when we are in love with men. It is something that many of us have had to grapple with at some point in our lives.
When the man in your life promises to call you, you may risk putting your life on hold as you wait for his call. Given that men do not seem good at using the phone, your waiting may seem to go on endlessly as the promised time passes. As the minutes turn to hours without receiving the expected call, your frustration is bound to build up, so much so that you may see that the best course of action is to call him and ask what could be wrong. This is the mistake that many women make.
If the man promised to call you at a given time and the promised period passes, you should not spend your time by the phone still waiting for him to call. It is said, and rightly so, that time is money. Well, it is actually more than money. And you will not be able to recover the time you have wasted.
Spend your time wisely
Instead of wasting hours by phone waiting for that one call, you should make good use of the time by doing something productive. If you do not have anything to do, then go out with your friends. You won't waste time brooding around, which will just make you more frustrated.
If the man calls several hours after the promised time and you answer the phone immediately, you will give the impression that your whole life hangs around him. While he may be quite important to you, this signal will just create more damage to your relationship. It is not exactly that he will take you as too cheap and hence lose interest. Rather, he may see this to mean that the battle is over, that he does not have to chase after you. In this comfort, your boyfriend will hardly have any motivation to call.
Give him something to hunt for
Men like chasing things by nature. If he sees that you are already deeply involved with him, why he wont call because he sees no reason to call. However, if you send the message that there are other important things in your life, you will spark off his interest to chase after you. As he starts to pursue you with renewed zeal, he will not take calling you for granted.
When the man in your life promises to call you, you may risk putting your life on hold as you wait for his call. Given that men do not seem good at using the phone, your waiting may seem to go on endlessly as the promised time passes. As the minutes turn to hours without receiving the expected call, your frustration is bound to build up, so much so that you may see that the best course of action is to call him and ask what could be wrong. This is the mistake that many women make.
If the man promised to call you at a given time and the promised period passes, you should not spend your time by the phone still waiting for him to call. It is said, and rightly so, that time is money. Well, it is actually more than money. And you will not be able to recover the time you have wasted.
Spend your time wisely
Instead of wasting hours by phone waiting for that one call, you should make good use of the time by doing something productive. If you do not have anything to do, then go out with your friends. You won't waste time brooding around, which will just make you more frustrated.
If the man calls several hours after the promised time and you answer the phone immediately, you will give the impression that your whole life hangs around him. While he may be quite important to you, this signal will just create more damage to your relationship. It is not exactly that he will take you as too cheap and hence lose interest. Rather, he may see this to mean that the battle is over, that he does not have to chase after you. In this comfort, your boyfriend will hardly have any motivation to call.
Give him something to hunt for
Men like chasing things by nature. If he sees that you are already deeply involved with him, why he wont call because he sees no reason to call. However, if you send the message that there are other important things in your life, you will spark off his interest to chase after you. As he starts to pursue you with renewed zeal, he will not take calling you for granted.
Saturday, March 6, 2010
Things You Need To Know About Calling Your Man
Things sometimes work out in a strange way in life. While it may seem very logical to call the man you love and have a chat with him, this may not necessarily be the right thing to do. However, this does not mean that there is nothing you can do if you would like to get more time with him.
There are a number of guidelines that will help you to handle the issue of phone calls more appropriately. This article is aimed at giving you some important highlights.
When he leaves you a message
Your man may call when you were away. When you receive his message, it is only fair of you to return his call. Let him know that you appreciate his effort and then let him take it from there. Don't go ahead and ask him for another date. On the other hand, if you would not like to encourage the relationship, thank him for his generosity but make it plain - in a polite way - that you don't want to give him a false lead.
Thank him in person
When you go out on a great date, you should not wait until the following day to call and thank him. Do this before you part.
Although we live in a world of gender equality, there are still some rules you need to play along with if you want a strong relationship. One of them is letting the man do the calling. Men by nature love chasing things but don't appreciate being chased after. And making frequent phone calls will make you appear to be doing just that. When you let him do the chasing, you will manage to catch him!
In any organized place, there are rules that ensure things run smoothly. You should not expect any less in a dating relationship.
Understand him
You should understand that there are inherent differences between men and women. This will help you to see things from his perspective.
Should I call him?
You should keep yourself busy instead of just waiting for him to call now that you know that you shouldn't do it. You will be in a better mood when he finally calls. And he will call - unless he wants to end the relationship.
There are a number of guidelines that will help you to handle the issue of phone calls more appropriately. This article is aimed at giving you some important highlights.
When he leaves you a message
Your man may call when you were away. When you receive his message, it is only fair of you to return his call. Let him know that you appreciate his effort and then let him take it from there. Don't go ahead and ask him for another date. On the other hand, if you would not like to encourage the relationship, thank him for his generosity but make it plain - in a polite way - that you don't want to give him a false lead.
Thank him in person
When you go out on a great date, you should not wait until the following day to call and thank him. Do this before you part.
Although we live in a world of gender equality, there are still some rules you need to play along with if you want a strong relationship. One of them is letting the man do the calling. Men by nature love chasing things but don't appreciate being chased after. And making frequent phone calls will make you appear to be doing just that. When you let him do the chasing, you will manage to catch him!
In any organized place, there are rules that ensure things run smoothly. You should not expect any less in a dating relationship.
Understand him
You should understand that there are inherent differences between men and women. This will help you to see things from his perspective.
Should I call him?
You should keep yourself busy instead of just waiting for him to call now that you know that you shouldn't do it. You will be in a better mood when he finally calls. And he will call - unless he wants to end the relationship.
Friday, March 5, 2010
How to Encourage and Make Him Call You
There are a number of possible complications that you may face when you are dating a man you are interested in. The dating process requires a delicate balance, where you will appear neither too eager nor too withdrawn. This is particularly when it comes to phone calls between you.
Some of the issues you will need to handle well so as to spice up your relationship is when you should wait for him to call, when it is all right for you to call, and how you should make your call when it is appropriate. There are some unspoken rules that will help you to have a more fulfilling relationship with the man you love.
When should you do the calling?
One of the main causes of confusion is when it is appropriate for you to call the man. As many of us will agree, the men do not seem to like making calls as frequently as we would like. In order to cover the gap, many of us resort to calling the men instead as the waiting may be quite frustrating. If you do not take the initiative and he does not call, how will you ever communicate? Actually, that is not the best way to solve the problem.
Take action - do nothing!
Picking up the phone to call your man is more likely to just get you deeper into the quicksand you have gotten into. The action that you need to take is to do nothing. Do not call him. When you keep on calling him, he will in turn keep on waiting for you to call. You therefore need to break this cycle by not calling.
If the man knows that you will call when he doesn't, he will simply wait for you to call. After some time passes without hearing from you as he expects, he will get curious and will call. This is really the best method of making him call you.
Some of the issues you will need to handle well so as to spice up your relationship is when you should wait for him to call, when it is all right for you to call, and how you should make your call when it is appropriate. There are some unspoken rules that will help you to have a more fulfilling relationship with the man you love.
When should you do the calling?
One of the main causes of confusion is when it is appropriate for you to call the man. As many of us will agree, the men do not seem to like making calls as frequently as we would like. In order to cover the gap, many of us resort to calling the men instead as the waiting may be quite frustrating. If you do not take the initiative and he does not call, how will you ever communicate? Actually, that is not the best way to solve the problem.
Take action - do nothing!
Picking up the phone to call your man is more likely to just get you deeper into the quicksand you have gotten into. The action that you need to take is to do nothing. Do not call him. When you keep on calling him, he will in turn keep on waiting for you to call. You therefore need to break this cycle by not calling.
If the man knows that you will call when he doesn't, he will simply wait for you to call. After some time passes without hearing from you as he expects, he will get curious and will call. This is really the best method of making him call you.
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