The breaking up of any relationship is never easy to cope up with. It is especially painful if the man in the relationship initiated the breakup. Women who have just gone through a bad relationship are often left in a state of emotional deadlock. They need a good amount of time to get over their confused state of emotions and affairs. Taking time for recovery is always a healthy process, but what may not necessarily be beneficial, is the way a woman chooses to undergo the recovery process.
The first thing a woman recovering from a break-up will do is to start probe about “what went wrong”. This is nothing unusual except that most of these women focus too much on the “wrong part” and start ignoring some other important aspects.
If you are facing any such situation, the questions that will dominate your thoughts are, “Where did I go wrong?”, “How could I have made it better?” and many other similar queries. The end result is that you carry this thought process to the next relationship.
Carrying remnants of the past to the future is never a good idea. You end up committing certain mistakes just because you continue carrying the burden of the past. Two such mistakes that you are likely to make are:
First, you often try to get a man with qualities that are similar or even identical to that of your former partner. What you are actually trying to do is to live the previous relationship anew. This is done in an attempt to rectify the 'mistakes' you may have committed. However, it never works because you have yet to come to terms with the past.
Second, you try to mend a broken heart by hanging out with a guy who has none of the qualities of the ex-boyfriend. This is done with a belief that you won't be facing similar problems in this relationship because the man has totally different qualities. This is not a good approach either since you may not face the same problems as in the past. It does not ensure that other problems will not occur.
What then is a good way to overcome a bad relationship? The answer does not lie in the type of man but in the way you mentally overcome a broken heart. Rather than focusing on all the 'wrongs' of the relationship-gone sour, think about the positives and all the memories that made your relationship worthwhile. Initially, this will be difficult but with time, you will learn to adjust and accept that 'those were good times but they exist no longer'.
The idea is to concentrate on the positives. Whatever you focus on is bound to grow. So why not focus on the positives and let them grow in your life? With some time, patience, your positive thoughts and confidence, you’ll eventually carry yourself to next relationship instead of the negativity.
Monday, May 24, 2010
Monday, May 17, 2010
Getting A Lover Back - Tips For Doing It Right
Getting a lover back can be a tricky proposition. Come on too strong and you'll scare them off for good, or they'll consider you a backup plan and take their time having fun and trying to see what other options they may have, all the while you'll be writhing in pain as they date one person after another. Or, come across as indifferent and they'll be convinced the two of you are over and they'll find someone else. Either way, you're screwed. The good news is that there is a happy medium, a way to let your ex know that you still care and may be interested in a reconciliation without giving the impression that you'll be sitting around waiting for them to make up their mind.
If you don't want to seem pathetic, it's important that you cut out all contact with your ex. Don't call, text, email, or just show up at their home or work. Just leave them alone. This is imperative if you don't want them to think of you as a sure thing, waiting on the sidelines. And don't worry about them forgetting about you, if you follow this advice, they'll more than likely hear a lot about what you're doing from mutual friends.
The next thing for you to do is give up any dumb ideas of making them jealous. Sure, it may work, they may get jealous but that doesn't mean that that jealously will make them want you back and even if it did they'd only be getting back together with you for the wrong reasons and the relationship probably wouldn't work anyway.
What you should be doing is living your life to the fullest no matter how hard that may seem right now. Go out with your friends, have fun. Do all the things you like to do but didn't have the chance to do when you and your ex were together. Take this time to make yourself a better person, whatever that means to you.
Maybe you've been meaning to take a trip, what are you waiting for? Go, explore. This will help you in many ways: for one thing it will keep your thoughts occupied with other things besides pain. Another benefit is that if you send a lot of postcards home to friends, your ex will hear about all the fun, interesting things you are doing. That will intrigue them. And lastly, you will expand yourself as a person. All new experiences help us to grow. Every time we try something new and different, especially those things that scare us a little bit, make us better more well rounded and interesting people. And that will help you in all aspects of your life, not just in getting your ex back.
Concentrating on living your life and trying to be happy is the best way of getting a lover back. It may sound odd, but everyone is attracted to interesting, fun loving people. No one is attracted to someone who seems needy and desperate. Which one would you rather be?
If you don't want to seem pathetic, it's important that you cut out all contact with your ex. Don't call, text, email, or just show up at their home or work. Just leave them alone. This is imperative if you don't want them to think of you as a sure thing, waiting on the sidelines. And don't worry about them forgetting about you, if you follow this advice, they'll more than likely hear a lot about what you're doing from mutual friends.
The next thing for you to do is give up any dumb ideas of making them jealous. Sure, it may work, they may get jealous but that doesn't mean that that jealously will make them want you back and even if it did they'd only be getting back together with you for the wrong reasons and the relationship probably wouldn't work anyway.
What you should be doing is living your life to the fullest no matter how hard that may seem right now. Go out with your friends, have fun. Do all the things you like to do but didn't have the chance to do when you and your ex were together. Take this time to make yourself a better person, whatever that means to you.
Maybe you've been meaning to take a trip, what are you waiting for? Go, explore. This will help you in many ways: for one thing it will keep your thoughts occupied with other things besides pain. Another benefit is that if you send a lot of postcards home to friends, your ex will hear about all the fun, interesting things you are doing. That will intrigue them. And lastly, you will expand yourself as a person. All new experiences help us to grow. Every time we try something new and different, especially those things that scare us a little bit, make us better more well rounded and interesting people. And that will help you in all aspects of your life, not just in getting your ex back.
Concentrating on living your life and trying to be happy is the best way of getting a lover back. It may sound odd, but everyone is attracted to interesting, fun loving people. No one is attracted to someone who seems needy and desperate. Which one would you rather be?
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Taking A Peek Into Her Inner World - What Does A Woman Feel About Dating
There are different views on dating for men and women. Many of them think of their perfect partner as something completely different from what someone else would. This is not unusual because all people are different. There are no two people that think exactly the same and this is true with relationships as well.
There have been many studies done to try and figure out what a woman wants in a man and the other way around. This is not exact science and there are many things to consider when thinking about it. It really boils down to the person and what they want to have in a relationship with a partner. Do they want to have a serious relationship that will turn into marriage down the road? Is this just a fling that will fade after a while? These are all things that people will ask themselves when they are in a relationship of any kind.
Many women think they know what they want and instead they go after something completely different. This is not uncommon and it is usually the way that a woman truly figures out what they want and need in a man. Every man has a different personality and there are certain women that only want a certain "quality" of man.
1) What they want for their love life
Women want different things when it comes to their love life and the man of their dreams. It is no lie that every woman wants to have a sensitive man that will fulfill all of her needs both physically and emotionally as well.
However, it is also true that a great sex life is one of the most important keys to a great relationship. There are some women that have broken it off with a man because of the sex and either lack of it or for lack of satisfaction.
Most women think of their man in many different ways when it comes to the lover personality that they have. Many women want their guy to have a bad boy sense about him. This will excite the woman and get their love life off to a heated start. Adventure is a great factor to have in any relationship for sex and romance. He should be a seducer but not slimy. Dirty talk is fine to a point but there is no need to be vulgar. Most women want someone to move them both physically and emotionally and add some energy and even some complexity to the relationship.
2) What women want in dating?
Most women want to have the perfect date. This can include anything from an energetic night out on the town to a romantic dinner for two at home. Most importantly woman want to be treated with respect and dignity.
No woman or man for that matter wants to be treated like a possession. They may want to be pampered and spoiled a little but they do not want to be treated like a child or made to feel incompetent. This is a very important thing to many women and will not want the guy to do too much for them and at the same time they will want him to show courtesy and use their gentleman skills. They just want to have a regular guy that will love them for who they are and not want anything buy love in return.
There are some women that just want to find a great guy that will treat her good and spend the rest of her life with him, while there are others that will go the distance to find someone that is successful and provides them with a good life. They are going to want the passion and the great kisses as well as guy that will go to the ends of the earth for them no matter what they ask.
3) What a woman should say on a date
Many times a woman will feel a little shy or embarrassed on a first date. They will not know what to say or how to act with a guy. When this is the case, they may seem a little stuck up or not interested. It is important to make sure that you are acting like yourself and let your true personality shine through.
Never act fake on a date. You do not want to be someone that you are not. Make sure that you ask the questions that you want to know so that you are getting to know the guy better. This will help you understand if you want to continue the relationship or if you are wasting your time. Do not be afraid to let yourself go and find out what you came there to do.
You should never get too attached in the first few dates. You will want to make sure that you are not letting your guard down to quickly. You are not expected to fall in love over night and you do not want to scare the guy off with those three little words that make most men run away screaming, I LOVE YOU! These are the words that can end a relationship before it even begins.
4) Keep your independence
It is important to stay true to yourself and keep your self-regard. You will want to make sure that you are having fun but do not get too close to the point that you are letting your emotions take over your brain. You need to stay focused and remember what you want and go after it. Be true to yourself and make sure that you are keeping your independence and your self-respect.
Finding a man should not mean sacrificing your independence your own life dreams and goals. Remember to have fun and keep an open mind and you will find the perfect man to spend the rest of your days with.
Finally, YOU can stop getting the man or woman you desire the hard way! Learn the secret keys to HIS or HER heart and mind, and discover how you can find and attract your perfect date and life companion the easy way at http://icontent.108secrets.hop.clickbank.net/
There have been many studies done to try and figure out what a woman wants in a man and the other way around. This is not exact science and there are many things to consider when thinking about it. It really boils down to the person and what they want to have in a relationship with a partner. Do they want to have a serious relationship that will turn into marriage down the road? Is this just a fling that will fade after a while? These are all things that people will ask themselves when they are in a relationship of any kind.
Many women think they know what they want and instead they go after something completely different. This is not uncommon and it is usually the way that a woman truly figures out what they want and need in a man. Every man has a different personality and there are certain women that only want a certain "quality" of man.
1) What they want for their love life
Women want different things when it comes to their love life and the man of their dreams. It is no lie that every woman wants to have a sensitive man that will fulfill all of her needs both physically and emotionally as well.
However, it is also true that a great sex life is one of the most important keys to a great relationship. There are some women that have broken it off with a man because of the sex and either lack of it or for lack of satisfaction.
Most women think of their man in many different ways when it comes to the lover personality that they have. Many women want their guy to have a bad boy sense about him. This will excite the woman and get their love life off to a heated start. Adventure is a great factor to have in any relationship for sex and romance. He should be a seducer but not slimy. Dirty talk is fine to a point but there is no need to be vulgar. Most women want someone to move them both physically and emotionally and add some energy and even some complexity to the relationship.
2) What women want in dating?
Most women want to have the perfect date. This can include anything from an energetic night out on the town to a romantic dinner for two at home. Most importantly woman want to be treated with respect and dignity.
No woman or man for that matter wants to be treated like a possession. They may want to be pampered and spoiled a little but they do not want to be treated like a child or made to feel incompetent. This is a very important thing to many women and will not want the guy to do too much for them and at the same time they will want him to show courtesy and use their gentleman skills. They just want to have a regular guy that will love them for who they are and not want anything buy love in return.
There are some women that just want to find a great guy that will treat her good and spend the rest of her life with him, while there are others that will go the distance to find someone that is successful and provides them with a good life. They are going to want the passion and the great kisses as well as guy that will go to the ends of the earth for them no matter what they ask.
3) What a woman should say on a date
Many times a woman will feel a little shy or embarrassed on a first date. They will not know what to say or how to act with a guy. When this is the case, they may seem a little stuck up or not interested. It is important to make sure that you are acting like yourself and let your true personality shine through.
Never act fake on a date. You do not want to be someone that you are not. Make sure that you ask the questions that you want to know so that you are getting to know the guy better. This will help you understand if you want to continue the relationship or if you are wasting your time. Do not be afraid to let yourself go and find out what you came there to do.
You should never get too attached in the first few dates. You will want to make sure that you are not letting your guard down to quickly. You are not expected to fall in love over night and you do not want to scare the guy off with those three little words that make most men run away screaming, I LOVE YOU! These are the words that can end a relationship before it even begins.
4) Keep your independence
It is important to stay true to yourself and keep your self-regard. You will want to make sure that you are having fun but do not get too close to the point that you are letting your emotions take over your brain. You need to stay focused and remember what you want and go after it. Be true to yourself and make sure that you are keeping your independence and your self-respect.
Finding a man should not mean sacrificing your independence your own life dreams and goals. Remember to have fun and keep an open mind and you will find the perfect man to spend the rest of your days with.
Finally, YOU can stop getting the man or woman you desire the hard way! Learn the secret keys to HIS or HER heart and mind, and discover how you can find and attract your perfect date and life companion the easy way at http://icontent.108secrets.hop.clickbank.net/
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Simple Ways to Make Him Fall in Love with You-
Are you single and ready to find the man of your dreams? Do you want him to fall in love with you and never leave you? Firstly, it is important that you know that there are many things you will have to learn if you want to make the man of your dreams fall in love with you. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a relationship that lasts.
Regardless, here are a few tips on how to make a man fall in love with you.
1. Getting his attention – Getting a man’s attention is the easiest but the most important part if you know what you are doing. Don’t always mingle with your friends, instead move closer to where he is, and make eye contact while smiling. This should attract his attention and he should come forward and start a conversation with you.
2. Flirt with him but hard to get - Now when we talk about playing hard to get this does not mean impossible to get. Make sure he knows you are interested, but do not make it so easy that you are dating him instantly. This will not build up any suspense or give him the chance to chase you.
3. Make him wait - Now, this is probably the hardest part for women to understand, but if you really want a man to fall in love with you and stay around forever, then you have to make him wait. How long should you make him wait? Ideally until marriage, but if that is out of the question you should at bare minimum make him wait 3 months.
These are very much just the basics to get you started towards getting the man of your dreams.
Regardless, here are a few tips on how to make a man fall in love with you.
1. Getting his attention – Getting a man’s attention is the easiest but the most important part if you know what you are doing. Don’t always mingle with your friends, instead move closer to where he is, and make eye contact while smiling. This should attract his attention and he should come forward and start a conversation with you.
2. Flirt with him but hard to get - Now when we talk about playing hard to get this does not mean impossible to get. Make sure he knows you are interested, but do not make it so easy that you are dating him instantly. This will not build up any suspense or give him the chance to chase you.
3. Make him wait - Now, this is probably the hardest part for women to understand, but if you really want a man to fall in love with you and stay around forever, then you have to make him wait. How long should you make him wait? Ideally until marriage, but if that is out of the question you should at bare minimum make him wait 3 months.
These are very much just the basics to get you started towards getting the man of your dreams.
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