Get Past a Bad Breakup - Two Mistakes People Make In Future Relationships

The breaking up of any relationship is never easy to cope up with. It is especially painful if the man in the relationship initiated the breakup. Women who have just gone through a bad relationship are often left in a state of emotional deadlock. They need a good amount of time to get over their confused state of emotions and affairs. Taking time for recovery is always a healthy process, but what may not necessarily be beneficial, is the way a woman chooses to undergo the recovery process.

The first thing a woman recovering from a break-up will do is to start probe about “what went wrong”. This is nothing unusual except that most of these women focus too much on the “wrong part” and start ignoring some other important aspects.

If you are facing any such situation, the questions that will dominate your thoughts are, “Where did I go wrong?”, “How could I have made it better?” and many other similar queries. The end result is that you carry this thought process to the next relationship.

Carrying remnants of the past to the future is never a good idea. You end up committing certain mistakes just because you continue carrying the burden of the past. Two such mistakes that you are likely to make are:

First, you often try to get a man with qualities that are similar or even identical to that of your former partner. What you are actually trying to do is to live the previous relationship anew. This is done in an attempt to rectify the 'mistakes' you may have committed. However, it never works because you have yet to come to terms with the past.

Second, you try to mend a broken heart by hanging out with a guy who has none of the qualities of the ex-boyfriend. This is done with a belief that you won't be facing similar problems in this relationship because the man has totally different qualities. This is not a good approach either since you may not face the same problems as in the past. It does not ensure that other problems will not occur.

What then is a good way to overcome a bad relationship? The answer does not lie in the type of man but in the way you mentally overcome a broken heart. Rather than focusing on all the 'wrongs' of the relationship-gone sour, think about the positives and all the memories that made your relationship worthwhile. Initially, this will be difficult but with time, you will learn to adjust and accept that 'those were good times but they exist no longer'.

The idea is to concentrate on the positives. Whatever you focus on is bound to grow. So why not focus on the positives and let them grow in your life? With some time, patience, your positive thoughts and confidence, you’ll eventually carry yourself to next relationship instead of the negativity.