For us ladies, we often find it rather challenging to read the reactions of our male counterparts. Yet it is very important to determine if a guy likes you in order to make the right decision. However much interest you have in a guy, you should not try to go to him at all costs. You should know whether the man really likes you, for that is when your relationship will be fruitful.
It is important for you to know how to tell whether a guy really likes you, so that you won't waste your energy in what will just cause you a heart ache. Here are some methods that will help you to know where you stand in a man's life. Please understand that these are general signs, and every man is different. However, they will give you a fairly good idea of what is going on.
Be forthright. Yes, although it may seem odd, sometimes it is good to ask the man straight to his face whether he likes you. It is better to know the truth, as it were, from the horse's mouth and avoid a lot of misunderstandings and wasting of precious time. As much as you may wish for a positive response, there are times when the answer may be negative. Do not take this personally. After all, it will have prevented you from experiencing a lot of painful experiences later on.
However, even before you ask, there are a number of signs that will help you to determine what is going on at the back of a man's mind as far as you are concerned. Here are some of the signs you should watch out for.
While people often associate blushing with us ladies, the truth is that a man who is interested in you will also tend to blush when you meet, or your eyes lock. The way he looks at you will also give away his inner feelings towards you. An interested man tends to look at you pretty frequently. However, you should be aware that stalkers will also tend to look at you often. The eyes of a man who shows interest will have dilated pupils. Take note of this when it is bright since the pupils naturally dilate when it is dim.
Another important indicator of a man's interest is his efforts at drawing your attention. When you are in a crowd the man will also try to find out where you are.
When you make an indication of a joke, it will not pass his attention, and he will laugh at it. The man will also tend to tease you, but not ruthlessly. This is another method of drawing your attention and letting him be in your memory.
In addition, a guy who is interested in you will take note of minor things about you. For instance, he will remember little things that you had said earlier. He will also notice fairly little changes in you.
However, a man who seems at home with every lady around is most likely to be merely playing around even with you. These general guidelines will help you to get into his mind and know whether he likes you.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
Thursday, November 19, 2009
8 Secret on to Get His Attention Fast
Whether he is your boyfriend or husband, there may be times when the man does not seem to notice you as you would like. Instead of enjoying your company, he may appear more interested in other things - whether his work or hobby. Although such an attitude may get you really worried, it does not necessarily mean that your man does not love you any more. It is really more likely the opposite.
When a man is assured of the love of his woman, he gets a sense of security that tends to make him more relaxed. As a result he will hardly see any need in making much effort in getting your attention. He sees that there is no problem that requires his attention in the relationship, and hence he will make very little effort in enhancing the relationship. Unfortunately, this tends to kill the romance in a relationship.
The best way to solve this problem is to show him your need through your actions. Being blunt about it and confronting him with the issue will hardly yield the desired results. You should not give the impression that you are demanding. Remember that in his view there is nothing wrong with the relationship, and you will just take him by surprise. He may just see as if you do not appreciate or trust him, and he is more likely to defend himself.
This is even more so if what has been occupying him is his job, since he may interpret your actions to mean that you do not appreciate his great efforts. A man's work is very important to him, and he may be working that hard especially for you. This may be his way of trying to create more input in the relationship.
There are a number of salient methods that you can use to make your man notice you once more fairly quickly. Here are some of the things you may take into consideration.
1. Review the mood in your bedroom
In case either of you appear to get bored in the bedroom; you need to find ways of making it livelier. For example, take more initiative in sparking the romance and you will get him more interested in you.
2. Briefly visit him at his place of work, and may be ask him out for lunch. This will silently tell him that you are thinking of him.
3. Take note of how you dress. Get his attention by putting on in a sexier manner. This usually works pretty fast.
4. Let him miss you. When there are times when you are not available while he needs your company, he will think of and miss you. Just do not take it to the extreme that may make him focus even more on his work.
5. Tease him at times. Flirt with him a little more and make him notice you.
6. Carry yourself with confidence. Check how you walk and talk. When you carry yourself with confidence, you will be able to make him notice you.
7. Prepare some things especially for him. Think of the type of meal he likes, and prepare it as best as you can.
8. Talk to him directly about your need. You should sweetly and seriously tell him about your need without sounding as if you accuse him in any way. Use the 'I' method to express your own need.
When a man is assured of the love of his woman, he gets a sense of security that tends to make him more relaxed. As a result he will hardly see any need in making much effort in getting your attention. He sees that there is no problem that requires his attention in the relationship, and hence he will make very little effort in enhancing the relationship. Unfortunately, this tends to kill the romance in a relationship.
The best way to solve this problem is to show him your need through your actions. Being blunt about it and confronting him with the issue will hardly yield the desired results. You should not give the impression that you are demanding. Remember that in his view there is nothing wrong with the relationship, and you will just take him by surprise. He may just see as if you do not appreciate or trust him, and he is more likely to defend himself.
This is even more so if what has been occupying him is his job, since he may interpret your actions to mean that you do not appreciate his great efforts. A man's work is very important to him, and he may be working that hard especially for you. This may be his way of trying to create more input in the relationship.
There are a number of salient methods that you can use to make your man notice you once more fairly quickly. Here are some of the things you may take into consideration.
1. Review the mood in your bedroom
In case either of you appear to get bored in the bedroom; you need to find ways of making it livelier. For example, take more initiative in sparking the romance and you will get him more interested in you.
2. Briefly visit him at his place of work, and may be ask him out for lunch. This will silently tell him that you are thinking of him.
3. Take note of how you dress. Get his attention by putting on in a sexier manner. This usually works pretty fast.
4. Let him miss you. When there are times when you are not available while he needs your company, he will think of and miss you. Just do not take it to the extreme that may make him focus even more on his work.
5. Tease him at times. Flirt with him a little more and make him notice you.
6. Carry yourself with confidence. Check how you walk and talk. When you carry yourself with confidence, you will be able to make him notice you.
7. Prepare some things especially for him. Think of the type of meal he likes, and prepare it as best as you can.
8. Talk to him directly about your need. You should sweetly and seriously tell him about your need without sounding as if you accuse him in any way. Use the 'I' method to express your own need.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Hot Tips To Make Him Explode With Desire For You
Being an irresistible woman means being the kind of woman who responds to men in a way that tells them that you have options.
Imagine what it is like for women who get lots and lots of attention from men. These kinds of women are rated 10's by men. So when a man sees you and interacts with you, he will automatically put you in a category.
What category will you be in?
Crazies get labeled. Weirdos get labelled. Stalkers get labeled. Drama Queens get labeled. And you'd be surprised that it is actually women who consider themselves "normal" that get these negative labels from men based on how they respond.
Doing things like interrogating a man IF you didn't call you when he said he will will cause him to label you as insecure and put you in the "crazy" category.
But if a man doesn't call when he says he will then finally calls back and you act really mature about it, he'll see that as a sign that you are centered. He'll think you're reasonable because after all he has "such a busy life" and only got to the phone when he could.
Acting mature about a man's eventual phone call goes something like this - this is what a 10 will usually do:
She'll make him wait a little because she's not desperate and after all she was BUSY too with her CRAZY BUSY schedule being involved in her own life and not waiting around for a man to finally call her. Then when she returns his call, she'll act sweet and happy to hear from him. No interrogation whatsoever.
Act like a 10 and you will make him sweat!
by Nicole Gayle
To cause a raging wildfire in your man where he craves you day and night, visit: http://aboutrelationship.com/WillYouMarryMe
Imagine what it is like for women who get lots and lots of attention from men. These kinds of women are rated 10's by men. So when a man sees you and interacts with you, he will automatically put you in a category.
What category will you be in?
Crazies get labeled. Weirdos get labelled. Stalkers get labeled. Drama Queens get labeled. And you'd be surprised that it is actually women who consider themselves "normal" that get these negative labels from men based on how they respond.
Doing things like interrogating a man IF you didn't call you when he said he will will cause him to label you as insecure and put you in the "crazy" category.
But if a man doesn't call when he says he will then finally calls back and you act really mature about it, he'll see that as a sign that you are centered. He'll think you're reasonable because after all he has "such a busy life" and only got to the phone when he could.
Acting mature about a man's eventual phone call goes something like this - this is what a 10 will usually do:
She'll make him wait a little because she's not desperate and after all she was BUSY too with her CRAZY BUSY schedule being involved in her own life and not waiting around for a man to finally call her. Then when she returns his call, she'll act sweet and happy to hear from him. No interrogation whatsoever.
Act like a 10 and you will make him sweat!
by Nicole Gayle
To cause a raging wildfire in your man where he craves you day and night, visit: http://aboutrelationship.com/WillYouMarryMe
Monday, November 9, 2009
Will He Marry Me? 6 Telltale Signs to Know
You have been dating a guy for a while now and you like to know what his real intention is. Will he marry me? How do I know for sure?
There are actually some telltale signs that will show that he has really reached such a point. You do not have to wait in suspense and waiting for the 'will you marry me?' This is very important when you consider that men who are really serious and stable do not rush with their proposals. You should therefore know how to read the signs.
Here are some important pointers.
1. He finally introduces you to his friends and family.
A man will not make such introductions when he is merely flirting around with you. This step indicates that he is prepared to make deeper commitments with you.
2. In addition, he may as well take the initiative to take part in some of your own family events. He will enjoy the company of your family. This is most likely his way of trying to win the acceptance of your family members.
3. He involves you in some of his major decisions. For example, when he plans major tours with you, or takes you when he goes to purchase an asset, he is already incorporating you into his future.
4. Not all men think of kids when they plan to get married. However, there are some men who will begin to talk about children. He may ask your opinion about children, or he may air his own interest in having children, or he may even tell you that you would be a good mother.
5. When he starts visiting jewelry store with you. Perhaps he is shopping for an engagement ring.
6. When he begins to enjoy more of your company than his former acquaintances, this is another indicator that he is preparing to settle down.
There are actually some telltale signs that will show that he has really reached such a point. You do not have to wait in suspense and waiting for the 'will you marry me?' This is very important when you consider that men who are really serious and stable do not rush with their proposals. You should therefore know how to read the signs.
Here are some important pointers.
1. He finally introduces you to his friends and family.
A man will not make such introductions when he is merely flirting around with you. This step indicates that he is prepared to make deeper commitments with you.
2. In addition, he may as well take the initiative to take part in some of your own family events. He will enjoy the company of your family. This is most likely his way of trying to win the acceptance of your family members.
3. He involves you in some of his major decisions. For example, when he plans major tours with you, or takes you when he goes to purchase an asset, he is already incorporating you into his future.
4. Not all men think of kids when they plan to get married. However, there are some men who will begin to talk about children. He may ask your opinion about children, or he may air his own interest in having children, or he may even tell you that you would be a good mother.
5. When he starts visiting jewelry store with you. Perhaps he is shopping for an engagement ring.
6. When he begins to enjoy more of your company than his former acquaintances, this is another indicator that he is preparing to settle down.
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
The Top 11 Things Men Hate About Women
There are some things we do even without realizing that the THINGS THAT PUT MEN OFF in our lives. When you know what these things are, you will be able to avoid them so that your man does not end up hating you. Here are they:
1. Trying to change him
It is not possible to create a custom-built man. When you try to change your man to fit your own requirements, you will end up earning his hatred instead.
2. Comparing him with other people
When you compare your man with someone else, e.g. your ex, you won't make him try to improve. In case you have to make any comparison at all, then it should only be something that shows he is better.
3. Pressing him on a particular topic
In general, men like to solve issues, so your man may not want to discuss a topic that he is still trying to solve.
4. Failure to keep your part of agreements
When you are used to adjusting agreements to fit your own individual preferences, your man will hate you for it.
5. Holding back your feelings
Although we tend to be free at sharing our feelings, perhaps this has not been the case in your situation. When your man has to pry you open every time in order for you to show your real emotions, he won't enjoy it.
6. Making fun of his interests
Although your man may have a hobby that you do not like, you should not try to make him leave it by making fun of, or looking down on it. You should also not press him to pick up your hobbies instead, as you will be essentially saying that you are better than him.
7. Jealousy
When you do not seem to want his attention to wander elsewhere, you won't make him see how much you love him. This will simply show your own insecurity.
8. Gossip
You are mistaken if you think that he will appreciate it when you talk to others about him, no matter how positive you comments may be.
9. Nagging
You may have a very genuine need, but when you keep talking to him about it, you will just put him off instead.
10. Interruption
When you just seem to be waiting for an opportunity to jump in and tell your own story as your man talks, he won't take it kindly. Give him a listening ear and he will appreciate you.
11. Being preoccupied with your appearance
Your man undoubtedly likes you to look pretty. However, the fact that he is with you shows that he already likes the way you look and being too concerned about the way you look won't win any more of his heart. It is even worse when you spend lots of time in front of the mirror but still come looking the same.
So now you know that these are the top list of things men hate, so try to avoid making these mistakes.
1. Trying to change him
It is not possible to create a custom-built man. When you try to change your man to fit your own requirements, you will end up earning his hatred instead.
2. Comparing him with other people
When you compare your man with someone else, e.g. your ex, you won't make him try to improve. In case you have to make any comparison at all, then it should only be something that shows he is better.
3. Pressing him on a particular topic
In general, men like to solve issues, so your man may not want to discuss a topic that he is still trying to solve.
4. Failure to keep your part of agreements
When you are used to adjusting agreements to fit your own individual preferences, your man will hate you for it.
5. Holding back your feelings
Although we tend to be free at sharing our feelings, perhaps this has not been the case in your situation. When your man has to pry you open every time in order for you to show your real emotions, he won't enjoy it.
6. Making fun of his interests
Although your man may have a hobby that you do not like, you should not try to make him leave it by making fun of, or looking down on it. You should also not press him to pick up your hobbies instead, as you will be essentially saying that you are better than him.
7. Jealousy
When you do not seem to want his attention to wander elsewhere, you won't make him see how much you love him. This will simply show your own insecurity.
8. Gossip
You are mistaken if you think that he will appreciate it when you talk to others about him, no matter how positive you comments may be.
9. Nagging
You may have a very genuine need, but when you keep talking to him about it, you will just put him off instead.
10. Interruption
When you just seem to be waiting for an opportunity to jump in and tell your own story as your man talks, he won't take it kindly. Give him a listening ear and he will appreciate you.
11. Being preoccupied with your appearance
Your man undoubtedly likes you to look pretty. However, the fact that he is with you shows that he already likes the way you look and being too concerned about the way you look won't win any more of his heart. It is even worse when you spend lots of time in front of the mirror but still come looking the same.
So now you know that these are the top list of things men hate, so try to avoid making these mistakes.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
How to Deal with a Commitment Phobic Man
While it is generally believed that men take proactive roles in establishing long lasting relationships, the truth is that many of them appear very reluctant to take this step. This means that there are high chances of finding out that your guy is one of those who suffer from commitment phobia. In such a case, you are likely to be frustrated as you find it nearly impossible to change the status quo. You have always been taught that it is the man who should propose to you. So, how should you deal with a commitment phobic man.
You do not have to resign yourself to a life of unceasing dating. Although it is true that it is the man who should make the all-important proposal, this does not mean that there is nothing you can do in order to speed up the process. There are some subtle ways that you may use in order to encourage your guy to opt for a more serious commitment.
Perhaps you have noticed that your guy seems to rise to the opposition whenever an acquaintance decides to settle down in marriage. Of course this is something that will make you feel quite hurt, as it reflects the position he puts you in as far as your relationship is concerned. However, if you decide to raise an argument about it, then you are likely to make matters worse. The guy will instinctively go to the defensive, and he will do everything he can to resist your point of view.
You should use a method that is known as reverse psychology. This is whereby you do the opposite of what the guy expects of you. Instead of making him know how much you would love to walk down the aisle with him, you should give the impression that you are not really concerned about your future together. In this way, the guy will realize that he is likely to lose you if he maintains his current status.
Although men enjoy our company, many of them seem to associate a serious commitment with the loss of their cherished freedom. This is what keeps them from taking the steps we would long for. Hence a good way of influencing your man to consider marriage is to make him realize that you will give him room to be himself. The best way of doing this is to show him through your actions, not saying it verbally.
You will be able to drive home this message when your commitmet phobic man realize that you also have an independent life that you have to take care of.
If you pursue your own interests that do not include him, your guy will take comfort in the fact that you won't smother his life, and he will be interested in developing a stronger relationship.
Once you have determined that that is the man you would like to spend the rest of your life with, there are things that you can do to make him get out of his commitment phobia now.
You do not have to resign yourself to a life of unceasing dating. Although it is true that it is the man who should make the all-important proposal, this does not mean that there is nothing you can do in order to speed up the process. There are some subtle ways that you may use in order to encourage your guy to opt for a more serious commitment.
Perhaps you have noticed that your guy seems to rise to the opposition whenever an acquaintance decides to settle down in marriage. Of course this is something that will make you feel quite hurt, as it reflects the position he puts you in as far as your relationship is concerned. However, if you decide to raise an argument about it, then you are likely to make matters worse. The guy will instinctively go to the defensive, and he will do everything he can to resist your point of view.
You should use a method that is known as reverse psychology. This is whereby you do the opposite of what the guy expects of you. Instead of making him know how much you would love to walk down the aisle with him, you should give the impression that you are not really concerned about your future together. In this way, the guy will realize that he is likely to lose you if he maintains his current status.
Although men enjoy our company, many of them seem to associate a serious commitment with the loss of their cherished freedom. This is what keeps them from taking the steps we would long for. Hence a good way of influencing your man to consider marriage is to make him realize that you will give him room to be himself. The best way of doing this is to show him through your actions, not saying it verbally.
You will be able to drive home this message when your commitmet phobic man realize that you also have an independent life that you have to take care of.
If you pursue your own interests that do not include him, your guy will take comfort in the fact that you won't smother his life, and he will be interested in developing a stronger relationship.
Once you have determined that that is the man you would like to spend the rest of your life with, there are things that you can do to make him get out of his commitment phobia now.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Will He Marry Me? How to Know If He's Ready For Marriage
How do I know will he ever marry me? Almost every woman who dates a guy would like the relationship to end up in a marriage. Women often daydream about wonderful wedding ceremonies and later to leave with husbands who shower us with plenty of love.
Given the fact that marriage is a life-long commitment, you will take deliberate measures to ensure that you date guy who is ready for marriage when you begin to think of tying the knot. It is also important for you to get a man who will be prepared to walk down the aisle with you. You should therefore be aware of how to pinpoint the appropriate man.
You will be able to determine a guy who is ready for marriage from his actions and words. You need to know how to read and interpret the signs. Here are some of the things that will help you to get a guy who is serious.
A guy who is thinking of marriage will make plans for the future. Such things as owning a home or having a good job are indicators of a serious guy. You should also take into consideration the way the guy makes his expenses. For instance, you should be wary of a guy who enjoys singles clubs, exotic vacations, or sports cars, as these are clear indications that he still cherishes his 'freedom'.
A guy who is ready for marriage will try to include you in some of his family events. However, a man who hardly even talks about his family most likely has no intentions of settling down with you. A guy is not likely to invite you to have dinner with his family if he is not serious about you. Why should he make his mother start giving him questions about his plans with you? Hence when a man takes this step, this is a very good signal that he is thinking of marrying you.
Another important signal is when a guy begins to talk about kids once in a while during your conversations. While some guys will talk about children in general to see your reaction, others will ask you straight to the point whether and when you would like to have kids. When a guy talks about kids, he is probably considering you as a likely mother to his own.
You will also be able to know the seriousness of a guy about marriage by considering the way he shops for you. Does he take you to jewelry stores so that you can try a variety of rings? Although men often like to keep it a secret when they are going to propose, they will take measures to ensure that you get an engagement ring that suits you best.
When you are thinking about marriage, it is important for you to look for a guy who wants to settle down. These simple tips will help you determine what goes on in a guy's mind so that you won't waste your precious time. Read the signs and act accordingly.
You will be able to determine a guy who is serious about marriage from his actions and words. You need to know how to read and interpret the signs. Here are some of the things that will help you to get a guy who is serious.
Given the fact that marriage is a life-long commitment, you will take deliberate measures to ensure that you date guy who is ready for marriage when you begin to think of tying the knot. It is also important for you to get a man who will be prepared to walk down the aisle with you. You should therefore be aware of how to pinpoint the appropriate man.
You will be able to determine a guy who is ready for marriage from his actions and words. You need to know how to read and interpret the signs. Here are some of the things that will help you to get a guy who is serious.
A guy who is thinking of marriage will make plans for the future. Such things as owning a home or having a good job are indicators of a serious guy. You should also take into consideration the way the guy makes his expenses. For instance, you should be wary of a guy who enjoys singles clubs, exotic vacations, or sports cars, as these are clear indications that he still cherishes his 'freedom'.
A guy who is ready for marriage will try to include you in some of his family events. However, a man who hardly even talks about his family most likely has no intentions of settling down with you. A guy is not likely to invite you to have dinner with his family if he is not serious about you. Why should he make his mother start giving him questions about his plans with you? Hence when a man takes this step, this is a very good signal that he is thinking of marrying you.
Another important signal is when a guy begins to talk about kids once in a while during your conversations. While some guys will talk about children in general to see your reaction, others will ask you straight to the point whether and when you would like to have kids. When a guy talks about kids, he is probably considering you as a likely mother to his own.
You will also be able to know the seriousness of a guy about marriage by considering the way he shops for you. Does he take you to jewelry stores so that you can try a variety of rings? Although men often like to keep it a secret when they are going to propose, they will take measures to ensure that you get an engagement ring that suits you best.
When you are thinking about marriage, it is important for you to look for a guy who wants to settle down. These simple tips will help you determine what goes on in a guy's mind so that you won't waste your precious time. Read the signs and act accordingly.
You will be able to determine a guy who is serious about marriage from his actions and words. You need to know how to read and interpret the signs. Here are some of the things that will help you to get a guy who is serious.
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